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New Years Questions

In the spirit of reflection, I stole these questions from metallidean_girl... usually, on New Years Eve, I used to do a fic-themed recap of the year, but much like last year, I think I only managed one fic this year, so there's not much to talk about Hopefully next year I do a little better in terms of getting more than one fic done.

So, here's some general questions:

1. What happened to you in 2017 that made you the happiest?
Well, I finally earned enough money to go on a vacation - which came in handy, when my bestfriend decided to get married in Nov. You'd think, perhaps, the wedding would have made me the happiest, but would that it were so simple. Instead, the wedding was a churning pit of conflicting emotions, which I navigated with grace and aplomb and only one teary phonecall back home to my other BFF, so that they could assure me that I was not going to freeze to death in the desert. BUT, that all aside, I was very proud of myself for being able to afford to go, and also, while I was in California for the wedding, I booked myself a slot to MEET A CHEETAH! And that made me very happy indeed. Also, my other BFF got engaged, and named me the Friend of Honour - and I am indeed honoured. I feel very very lucky to have such wonderful people in my life.

2. What are your plans for New Year's Eve/New Year's Day?
Tonight I'm going to a lowkey houseparty. It is a comfy clothes, let's just chill out, party... which is great, because that's my style these days. New Years Day.... I actually forgot that it's usually a holiday, so I didn't plan time off work or anything. So, I will probably be treating it like a regular day, though hopefully work will be slow and I can use a lot of the day to map out my schedule for the month and hang my new calendars and whatnot.

3. What was the best discovery you made in 2017?
Hmm, this one is tough... I guess, well... if we go by discovery=learning - then I discovered ASL and how much fun it is to learn. If we go by discovery=proving of a hypothesis - then I discovered that much like I had hoped, although I inevitably was laid off, the job I took for the sole purpose of giving myself marketable skills on my resume WORKED and I now have marketable skills on my resume and am in a much better position than I was before I took that job. So, yay! Mission success!

4. What are your thoughts on the idea of "new year/new you?"
I generally don't agree... but it's not that I don't agree that you can change who you are, if you choose to - it's that I disagree that you should do it at New Years. If there is something you want to change about your life, you either do it as soon as you think about it, or you don't do it at all. I recognize that a new year is a good signal to put the past behind you and move on to the future - but in my opinion, if you can't do that in May or mid-November, then you're not going to be able to do it in January ether.

BUT, some people like symbols and hard dates, and setting challenges. AND sometimes it works out that you want to try a different scheduling technique, and the best time to do that is when you buy a new planner/calendar for the upcoming year.... and yeah, I've done that before too. I'm perhaps just cynical about resolutions because it means that my yoga studio and gym get WAY too crowded in January before everyone eventually gives up on their dreams and leaves me in peace.

5. What are you most looking forward to in 2018?
I'm looking forward to seeing if a potential new job will pan out. If it does, I might be able to afford another vacation. If it doesn't - luckily, I have a good steady part-time job right now that covers my basic bills. Other than that... possibly learning more ASL? My friend's stagger party.... seeing if this new scheduling technique I want to try is going to allow me to produce more fic/writing time. US mid-term elections?  Seeeing if Wayward Sisters gets picked up by the CW to go to series. Black Panther. Just living my life?

Happy New Year everybody! This entry was originally posted at https://hells-half-acre.dreamwidth.org/549446.html.

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amberdreams
Jan. 1st, 2018 08:52 am (UTC)
Ah, your thoughts on #4 echo mine! I know setting deadlines and targets for new year suit some people but for me it's just setting myself up to fail.

Well done on the work front! Sometimes a grotty job does end up with benefits and I'm glad that was the case for you.

Black Panther!! Yay! Can't wait...
hells_half_acre
Jan. 2nd, 2018 12:32 am (UTC)
Thanks! Yeah - for all the troubles with the job, it was definitely time well spent.

And yeah, re: #4 - I also think that making something a resolution makes the failure WORSE. Like, if you try getting into a new habit in November, and it doesn't work out, you can look at WHY it didn't work out and determine whether perhaps you need to come at it from a different angle, or perhaps that habit just isn't suited to your lifestyle and you need to figure out how to solve whatever problem you're trying to solve a different way... and there's way more personal forgiveness and just general investigation and consideration of your options.

Whereas if you make something a resolution, if it fails - for some reason that's always seen as a personal failing on your part, rather than "perhaps you should try something else" it's most just "well, you failed because you suck."

Or at least, that's what I tend to see people doing to themselves.
borgmama1of5
Jan. 1st, 2018 08:52 pm (UTC)
Happy New Year! I always look forward to your posts!
hells_half_acre
Jan. 2nd, 2018 12:27 am (UTC)
Happy New Year! I always look forward to your comments. ;)
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